She’s written a how-to guide for teenage girls, and it’s got everything you need to know.
“Too often sex education in schools focuses on biology and risk but that’s only half of the story,” says Eva Sless. “Sex is fun and feels good and is an emotional roller-coaster. What felt great yesterday can make you feel uncomfortable today. Regular sex education is like teaching someone how to drive a car but forgetting to show them how the steering wheel works.
“Leaving information out because you think it’s icky is dangerous.”
Eva’s had many positions in the sexperting field, and after discovering there was nothing really out there for teenage girls to learn the ins’n’outs (and round’n’rounds) of hooking up, she decided to write A Teen Girl’s Guide to Getting Off.
“I wrote this after facilitating a bunch of workshops for older women on sex and pleasure,” she says. “After each session I would have all these women telling me they wished they’d learnt this in high school. That it would have saved them so many bad decisions, bad sex, doubt and self-consciousness. And I absolutely agree! So I wrote the book I wish I’d had as a bit of a promiscuous teen.”
Unlike other books that are meant to teach you about the art of sexification, this one’s not afraid to dig into the sticky, messy, glorious muck of it all. Eva’s wide open on every topic from masturbation to sex toys.
“The focus of this book is pleasure and consent,” she explains. “What is consent? How do you give it? Telling teenagers to ‘just say no’ is all well and good but no one actually tells them HOW to say no. And how to say no to someone you really like. And how to say no to one part of the experience but yes to another.”